Unhealthier Ever After: Weight Gain After Marriage

Does a marriage result in an expanding girth or marital bliss? A lot of couples say both. The additional weight might also accumulate slowly and insidiously. We frequently persuade ourselves that a few more pounds are not particularly concerning over the course of a few months and are simple enough to drop. We’ll do it eventually. Right.

A Change in the Regular

Unfortunately, it’s all too simple to smother ourselves in the cozy pattern we’ve established with our new spouse, wrapping ourselves in it like a warm blanket. ignoring how swiftly the months are becoming years… Ignoring the reality that our once wholesome routine of going to the farmers market and going to the gym has been replaced by a less-than-healthy pattern of eating fatty takeaway and spending evenings with our spouse on the couch… … ignoring the fact that our wardrobe options are now limited to shirts that are large enough to cover our expanding midsections and pants with elastic waistbands.

How is it Possible to ME?

The weight gain that many couples experience after marriage can be attributed to a wide range of factors. Some people think that the additional duties and stressors associated with having a family cause self-care related to food and fitness to fall by the wayside. Some claim that since we are no longer actively courting someone, being in a pleasant, content relationship may encourage us to downplay the significance of preserving our physical attractiveness.

No Laughing Matter

But the main issue for us is probably less about the causes of the phenomena of the expanding waistline and more about what we can do about it. Since obesity and having a larger-than-average waist to hip ratio are connected to higher health risks for both men and women, this is absolutely no laughing matter. We all want our happily-ever-after to continue into old age in good health, but that bloated waistline can have other plans. In addition, despite the cliché that “love is blind,” we all certainly have a tiny part of us that wishes we were still as physically appealing to our partner as we were when they first met us.

You Already Know How to Do This

What then should we do about it? Contrary to what you might believe, the problem at hand has nothing to do with how to prevent weight gain—specifically, how to reduce our waistlines. We all at least understand the fundamental principles of weight control and fat reduction, and there are countless tested healthy diet and exercise regimens available for you to pick from.

Create a New Normal

The actual secret to long-term success, however, is being able to stick with the adjustment you’ve made. This entails accepting the change as a lifestyle choice rather than a brief period of hardship that you’ve chosen to endure until you reach your weight goal and can resume your “normal life.” Because returning to that “normal life” will probably make you gain weight again, which is what caused you to gain weight in the first place! The hardest part of adopting healthy eating habits and maintaining an active fitness level—and of making any significant change in life—is turning new behaviors into long-term lifestyle adjustments.

Alter your routine once again.

When it comes to food and exercise, actions that have been repeated until they have become habits rule supreme. Habits are strong things. This fact may appear to be to your detriment when you’re trying to change a behavior that has already become ingrained in your daily routine, but it’s a concept that can be used to your advantage in the long run because you always have the choice to develop and adopt a more advantageous habit.

Unable to obtain satisfaction

Think carefully about the behaviors you want to change, such as your evening couch-potato act. Now consider a new, more desirable activity that you might be able to replace the old habit with in order to continue receiving the same level of enjoyment from the original behavior. Our habitual actions frequently fulfill particular requirements, such as those for socialization, enjoyment, or relaxation. There is a part of us that is left unsatisfied and continues to demand attention until it ultimately gets what it wants. This is because drastic adjustments frequently fail since they don’t address the pertinent needs at play.

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Remember to change behaviors gradually and at a speed that seems comfortable to you after deciding what you want to change and thinking about better alternatives. A million times more beneficial to you than a radical change that you give up on after a few weeks is any small shift in the right direction that you can make a permanent part of your lifestyle.

Perhaps you decide that it would be just as relaxing to do some journaling in a diary, sing along to your favorite music in your bedroom, or even sit out on the front porch swing cuddling with your spouse rather than unwinding at the end of a long day by watching TV (an environment that frequently encourages inactivity in addition to being a strong snacking trigger for many people).

Two Peas in a Pod

If at all feasible, enlist your spouse’s assistance in this endeavor. Your accomplice in waistline crime may also be your best friend while trying to change your way of life. Additionally, as a married pair, your lifestyles are rather inextricably intertwined, so any changes to one of them will unavoidably have an effect on the other. So, act as two wholesome peas in a pod. Encourage one another. Encourage one another. Rock your marriage and let your new, healthy habits lead to a long, fulfilling life together.