Reactivating the Love Factor

We are all connected by emotions, notwithstanding our differences. Let’s dissect the term “Emotion-E-Motion.” Motion is the act of moving, and the prefix E implies out of. Your feelings are thus the result of both moving and upholding a happy, healthy, loving, and effective connection. The partnership is going to keep spiraling upward from a lighter movement.

Here’s a 5-step activation challenge to think about:

STEP 1: Be receptive

It requires having an open mind to the possibility of having an unfamiliar encounter that deviates from your usual. Take advantage of the novel experience by engaging in a new activity or something you haven’t done in a long time. Even though you are apprehensive at first due to the

The “in love” sensation is absent. In the words of the Nike shoe company, “Just Do It.” That is why it is crucial to start the relationship’s movement toward a change. An action component is a must. That is how E-motion moves.

Step 2: Stop putting on a fake face

This implies that you should begin practicing being honest with yourself and your spouse about how you’re feeling. I always find out how my customers are feeling and how they are doing. Two distinct states of being: you are extremely superficial about how you are doing, but you remove the mask when you take the time to check in with both your spouse and yourself. Goodness isn’t an emotion. Good is not an emotion.

Start to connect with your body’s movements and sensations. Feelings like exhaustion, excitement, sadness, happiness, anxiety, etc. Feel that sensation, then start exploring your feelings to better understand yourself so you can share it with your spouse. They should listen to you by making an effort to comprehend. Not respond, not defend, not react, just be present.

Step 3: Always be there

I understand what it’s like to be completely distracted from your lover by your thoughts. You are considering preparing the children for school. How are you supposed to finish that project at work? Which bills haven’t been paid yet? QUIT NOW!

Breathe, Slow Down, and Pause! When engaging in emotional dialogue with your significant other. Live in the now. Now is the moment to show selflessness. Set aside your personal agenda and spend some time getting to know your partner’s world without passing judgment or offering advise until they specifically ask you to. ATTEND THEIR!

Try to imagine yourself in your partner’s position and see how you would feel—or whether you are unable to relate. Inquire. Don’t ask why. It does not encourage communication that is adaptable and fluid. “How come?” inquire as to what is causing your feelings. What is happening? Be inquisitive and empathetic in order to convey your want to learn about your partner’s environment. Talk about their experience.

Step 4: Use the affirmative phrase “I AM…” to communicate

“I AM” declarations assume responsibility for your own experiences and direct attention toward your needs and desires. No, saying “I need you to…” is not an emotional communication. Then, when the emphasis is placed on placing blame rather than taking personal accountability for what “I” need and desire rather than what your spouse is doing incorrectly, communication may become obstructed. When someone says something that begins with “You,” it might make people feel hostile, defensive, and alienated.

STEP 5: Practice Patience

Losing a romantic partner takes time. It gradually intensifies. This is where the advantages of couples counseling enter the picture. It helps analyze both partners’ points of view in order to determine what went wrong in the relationship, what aspects are missing that might have contributed to it, and how to mend the relationship or start fostering harmony among the partners. Recall that this is a procedure. Decide consciously that you desire the connection and that you are prepared to go through whatever it takes to maintain a happy, loving relationship. The love factor can be stimulated again.