Not Feeling Grateful? Here’s Some Useful Relationship Advice

Thanksgiving is quickly approaching, and with it all the postings of thanks on social media in particular. But November isn’t the only month to express and act in gratitude. Do you have a year-round attitude of thankfulness, or are you among those who are feeling down and lacking gratitude? Did you know that a happy and fulfilling love connection requires gratitude? It is accurate. Those who have an attitude of gratitude are generally happier and healthier.

The effect of gratitude

Being grateful and leading a pleasant life are essential for both physical and mental health. Being positive makes us happier and more self-assured while also lowering aggression and depression. When faced with challenges in life, our mental and emotional health enables us to be more adaptive and resilient.

Why gratitude helps relationships

I often encounter people at their lowest moments as a therapist. They frequently find themselves in vicious spirals where they utter the most abhorrent and dehumanizing things to one another. They have nothing but bad sensations and thoughts regarding their partners. I have to focus on the good things. In order for the couples to realize that there is still love there, I have to find the positive in the middle of all that suffering and start showing it to them. They are appreciative of the good once they start to notice it. After then, positive changes begin to occur.

Being thankful for your partner and the part they play in improving your life has a profound impact on both you and everyone you come into contact with.

You must deliberately alter your situation if you’re in a bad place. You have to tell yourself when you get up each morning that you are going to be grateful for what you have today. You have to actively search for the good things in every circumstance. I assure you that if you follow this, you will locate them.

We have more to be thankful for the more we express our gratitude for what we already have. Although it may sound corny, this is the reality.

Show gratitude daily

No matter what is going on in your life right now, you can cultivate an attitude of appreciation. It doesn’t happen immediately. Being thankful for the little things is something we discuss frequently in my Couples Expert podcast and blog. The most important thing is to consistently express your gratitude. Good ways to accomplish this include being polite, expressing gratitude, and writing notes and letters. When was the last time you sent a thank-you note to someone? In our instantaneous electronic culture, this is a courtesy that has mostly been forgotten. It must be brought back to life. See how big of an effect it has on the recipient after giving it a try.

Place a cookie in your mail carrier’s mailbox and express gratitude to your garbage haulers and other service providers. It feels fantastic! At home, show your appreciation for your partner’s contributions to your everyday comfort and wellbeing. Congratulate your children on a job well done on their homework or chores. Express your thanks for the things you and your spouse have worked so hard to afford, such as a place to live, food, and extras. You’re starting to understand, see! Consider all the positive aspects of your relationships with your parents, friends, and partner. Tell your lover, “I appreciate you and all you bring to my life,” on a frequent basis. Give details.

Gratitude helps you get through challenges

It’s simpler to withstand and find the bright side of life’s storm clouds when things don’t go as planned and you face difficulties—which you will. A couple in their 50s had their house burn down in Northern California due to wildfires, according to a news article I just watched. They were seen in the photo dancing, laughing, and grinning in the driveway of their abandoned house. “How can they be so happy, when they’ve lost literally everything?” one may wonder. I observed two individuals who were living thankful lives. They acknowledged that they wouldn’t be able to save their house and expressed sincere gratitude for having survived. They were thankful for life and the opportunity to continue living it with each other. It struck me as being quite lovely.

Not feeling it? Maybe this will help:

Attempt to focus your gaze on the five visible and touchable objects in your immediate surroundings. You are able to attain tangible items that provide you happiness. Give thanks for these.

The next time you are together, look at your spouse and list three reasons why you are thankful to have them in your life. They have certain qualities and distinctive contributions to your connection for which you are grateful. Declare them aloud.

After dark, take a seat by yourself in silence and reflect on your day. Think back on your blessings and express your gratitude for them.

Consider the negative experiences you may have had this week and, despite the challenges, try to find the good things that still transpired.

Launch a diary. Make a list of all the things for which you are grateful at this exact moment, and do this each day. Return to your written work at the conclusion of the week. You will discover that you are conducting your life in a way that allows you to recognize these jewels every day and remember to write them down.

Open a jar of thankfulness. Arrange a jar and a few paper slips. Put your blessings in gratitude on paper, fold them into little notes, and put them in the jar. Read every piece of paper and empty the jar at the end of the year. You will discover that, in the end, you had many reasons to be thankful.

You’re well on your way to cultivating an attitude of thankfulness if you can accomplish these tasks. Work on this until it becomes second nature. It won’t take long for you to start searching for the positive things in life, the moments of thankfulness, even in the face of obstacles and hardships.From now until the end of your life, you and your loved ones will experience beneficial effects from this genuinely changing practice.