Marriage and the Highly Sensitive Person

Being a highly sensitive person can be difficult enough in this world, but it can be more difficult in a relationship when our spouse doesn’t get it! There is still hope since understanding arises from a clear communication of an HSP’s differences from a non-HSP, and magic happens when understanding, love, commitment, and willingness come together.

First, who is more sensitive, you or your partner?

It seems that 20% of people identify as HSPs. You may be if you discover that you are quickly overwhelmed by outside stimuli. Things that deplete you include: odors, sounds, lights, crowds, circumstances with a lot going on at once, feeling other people’s emotions, and having trouble maintaining enough personal space around other people.

Life can appear quite tough because of these sensitivities because HSPs are always on the lookout for and avoid things that irritate them. They become extremely alert, quickly going into fight or flight mode, and frequently feel exhausted from tension and worry.

This might be challenging in a relationship with a non-HSP because HSPs have distinct needs and have completely different worldviews. HSPs are inherently oversensitive and overactive, despite the fact that their partners frequently perceive them as such. In fact, being an HSP can lead to a more happier existence once it is accepted and recognized. This is so that the HSPs can use their sensitivity to steer others away from discord and toward harmony because they are actually far more aware of and attuned to their immediate surroundings.

It is important to open up the line of communication with a non HSP

If one of you in the relationship is an HSP and the other is not, it’s critical to communicate openly to understand one other’s perspectives on the world. When these levels are understudied, loving acceptance and compromise can be used to achieve balance rather than constant misunderstandings that result in one or both parties not having their needs satisfied.

It resembles a partnership in which one person is an extrovert and the other introverted. One thrives on quiet time spent alone themselves, while the other thrives on social interaction with many people. Although it may seem impossible to strike a balance such that each person gets what they need and want, if the couple learns to understand and appreciate one another’s world, it may actually result in a very rich experience. Variety is the source of life’s fervor, flow, and thrill. Just by letting yourself join your spouse in their world, you could discover a whole new universe you never knew existed!

It’s like being a child and seeing something for the first time—oh, the wonder of it!

You or your partner may be an HSP, and there is fun and fresh exploring to do that can open up your relationship to more love and delight in embracing each other’s peculiarities, if you feel that this article speaks to you or touches you deeply.