How To Truly Forgive Infidelity & Move Forward

If you have ever experienced infidelity, you are aware of how challenging it can be to recover. Even though leaving is the simple solution, you must consider whether the marriage can survive adultery or if divorce is unavoidable.

To try to weather the storm of adultery is a sad scenario, and this is a highly personal decision.

Even if it might not always be possible, think twice about the scenarios and questions below before filing for divorce.

1. Recognize the source of the infidelity

Handsome Man is sitting dejectedly on his bed and leaning on his hand. A woman is sitting in the background.

One would suppose that all it takes for someone to cheat is the chance. This is frequently untrue and is more likely the result of the marriage losing its intimacy. It’s possible that you two weren’t on the same page or were perhaps drifting apart.

Before deciding whether to forgive the infidelity, consider the circumstances that led up to it. Recognize the underlying causes to gain some understanding of the circumstance.

If it seems like a challenging endeavor, keep in mind that there are therapists who are educated expressly to assist with this process of awareness.

2. Be truthful about any previous marital issues.

Man holding woman’s hands and gazing at her while expressing his love and understanding

Really, did you not see this coming? Was the breakdown of the marriage your fault or did it come as a complete shock to you both? You must first put your marriage back on track and draw lessons from past mistakes in order to endure infidelity.

Be truthful with yourself about your part in the problems in your marriage. It will take time to forgive and move on, but it is possible to fix issues in the marriage and emerge even stronger.

3. Ask yourself if having this person in your life is improving it.

Asking yourself if you can imagine your life without this person will help you decide if adultery is something that can be forgiven. Even though dealing with marital infidelity is difficult, you must consider how your life would be without the cheater.

You may find the solution if you can honestly state that you would be better off or if you are willing to put out the effort to restore confidence.

4. Consider what it would take for both parties to forgive and move on.

Marriages are never easy to forgive, and this is especially true when there has been adultery.

Believe that giving yourself some space and reflecting on your choices will help you determine what is best for you and your marriage. Give yourself time to reflect on what occurred before determining whether it is possible to fully forgive.

Making a final decision after discovering an affair is difficult, so give yourself plenty of time. You just need to make the decision. Forgiveness is something that everyone is capable of. Make careful to take into account the marital issues that contributed to this as well.

If you both commit to the healing process, you can forgive your spouse and move past the affair.