Relation

Does God Have a Place in the Counseling Process?

Here are some handles that might assist me further clarify my understanding. Your results may differ from mine because I’m not the only religious counselor out there.

It’s problem-solving focused.

My religious worldview emphasizes healing and restoration, which strikes me as a problem-solving procedure. I firmly believe that people are looking for a fresh approach and a new course of action. They are already aware of how the pattern will play out in the future. I make an effort to focus the majority of my time and energy on finding solutions for the problems we face as a partnership and individually rather than dwelling on the hurts of the past.

It is values-focused.

I believe that many people’s views on relationships and marriage are consistent with my own biblical principles, so I can handle my nonreligious clients in much the same manner that I do my religious ones without offending them. For instance, fidelity, trust, and “team” are a few of the shared values. Although I am aware that open marriages, triplets, and quadruplets exist, I haven’t encountered any of them in my counseling practice.

As much as I feel my customers are receptive to a biblical perspective, I include such facts in our discussions and suggestions for the future. It can advise them to read a certain prayer or Bible scripture repeatedly in between sessions. It can involve mentioning or sharing a biblical story that, in my opinion, can help to clarify their difficulties. With clients who “are open to God’s solution,” I frequently pray at the conclusion of a session. I don’t ask those who respond “no” or “unsure.” Simply said, I don’t believe that trying to force anything on individuals who aren’t ready, whether it be Biblical or otherwise, would make me a very effective (or ethical!) counselor. My understanding of the Bible provides me the peace to let people do as they are willing, rather than what I think they should. (I try not to “should” on my clients, and I don’t appreciate it when people “should” on me.)

It supports marriage

Over 60% of the more than 1,000 marital and family therapists surveyed nationally said they were “neutral” regarding marriage vs. divorce for their clients. Only one-third of respondents stated, “I am committed to preserving marriage and avoiding divorce whenever possible.” Even 2.4% claimed to routinely advise divorce. The majority of therapists are impartial when marriages are having issues, to put it simply. I am not that. I believe that transforming and repairing damaged marriages will benefit my clients’ future and their family legacies. I frequently tell clients and potential customers that I agree with the choice they made when they said, “I do.”

I therefore hope that when Jessicas of this world enter my office, they will leave feeling as though they can conquer their difficulties and be willing to consider how their faith may actually aid in their healing.