Defining Physical Abuse

The day is bright and sunny. You may be strolling in the park with your dog or out with your family. Then, all of a sudden, lightning strikes, thunder rumbles, and clouds begin to drift in. It has changed from being a lovely day to a stormy, unpleasant afternoon. The only thing standing in your way is making it home without getting too wet.

In a marriage, physical abuse is comparable to the sudden storm overhead. Marriage is a happy occasion filled with sunshine and rainbows. Life appears to be nice and will stay that way indefinitely.

However, it doesn’t always. Occasionally a storm approaches. An argument turns into a brawl. The following becomes somewhat combative. All of a sudden, you start fighting over the most basic issues.

Sadly, there are some people who are unaware that their partner is physically abusing them. That or they refuse to acknowledge it.

It’s critical to identify it precisely because failing to do so would be like to being blind to the storm surrounding you and allowing it to hit you without taking precautions to keep yourself safe.


Let’s start with the obvious: physical abuse is occurring in your home if punches are being thrown. Whether the kicks, slaps, or punches are intended or not, they nevertheless constitute physical abuse.

Some people might ignore it or even use the excuse “Well, I started it” to defend the abuse. It won’t be over, even if you did “start it,” until the abuse is called out for what it is. If there isn’t an intervention, the attacks will keep happening, your marriage will finally get out of hand, and you’ll be left on the painful and lonely path. If this is what your partner is doing to you, don’t defend their behavior. Seek refuge and inform someone of the true situation.


“It doesn’t count if we didn’t swing at each other.”


The key to physical abuse is control. The predator maintains control over its victim by physically harming them. Strong grasps have the same terrifying power as slaps or punches. Physical abuse is defined as grabbing your arm, your face, or any other part of your body. Don’t write this off since no punches were exchanged. A grip can inflict the same amount of physical damage on the body as a punch or slap, as well as comparable mental harm.

Throwing objects

Anything thrown with malice, be it a dish, lamp, or chair, qualifies as physical abuse. Whether or if the target is hit is irrelevant. The main idea is that one individual attempted to harm the other. It is not necessarily appropriate to disregard something just because they were unsuccessful. It doesn’t matter how many times it has occurred; it is still considered physical abuse and should not be tolerated.

Forced sexual acts

Consent is not always assumed just because you are married. Pushing yourself away from your partner is a kind of physical abuse, specifically rape. Since marriage binds a person to a sexual partner for life, many do not consider this to be a valid reason for abuse in a marriage. However, everyone has bad days, days when they’re not feeling it, and days when they don’t want to have sex.

Be not deceived into believing that this is something that can be overlooked. Similar to all other types of physical abuse, this is a tactic used by a domineering individual to maintain control over their partner. Seek assistance as soon as possible if you believe your partner is pressuring you and you are losing control in the bedroom.

Concluding remarks

Physical abuse, to put it simply, is any physical act in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsafe or powerless. It seems differently to each person and is typically unique to the problems in each relationship.

It’s crucial that you stop being in denial about the physical abuse that takes place in your family. Although accepting the reality of your surroundings can be difficult at times, doing so is essential if you want your marriage and general well-being to improve.

Know that you are not alone if you are always afraid and are simply waiting for your partner to lose it. You can get assistance from certain persons. Services are available to help you stay safe.

It’s usually best to regain control at the exact moment when you feel most uncontrollable. Get talking now. Inform a friend or member of your family that you feel unsafe. It is best if you can gain the confidence of as many individuals as possible. This will give you more impetus to seek expert assistance or maybe law enforcement assistance. It will be essential to have that support network as you try to fight your way out of the situation that your husband has put you in.

I truly hope that this helps throw some light on your situation, regardless of whether you have admitted to experiencing physical abuse in your relationship. Don’t sugarcoat what is true. Because you love your spouse, don’t ignore the abuse. You wouldn’t be in this predicament if the love was reciprocated. Admitting what is broken is the first step towards healing. If your partner is abusing you physically, get help right once.