7 Must-Knows to Making the Most of Midlife Marriage

Having a strong marriage makes managing all the sorrow easier.

While we’ve learned that laughter is a better option than breaking things, attempting drugs, or running away to join a chanting group in India, marriage at midlife does not ensure complete joy. I read stories of betrayal, revelry, and horrifying evilness on the internet every morning, and that’s just from the neighborhood garden club. Managing all of the sadness, angst, and downright nasty stuff that is going around us is made simpler by a strong marriage. We get away from the bustle at the end of the day, sit down, and discuss life. I can also laugh aloud now without getting my pants wet.

People in their middle years are aware that their marriage may make them happy or unhappy. Here are some ideas on how to make a midlife relationship last.

Have a sense of humor

Having bladder issues with someone who can’t laugh at themselves is not something I advise. Many of us have a range of health problems at midlife, which can strain relationships when our bodies begin to fail us. One of the more unpleasant facts is the occurrence of bladder prolapse. Try not to cry throughout, and make up a game where you have to list all the ways that “It Could Be Worse.” The humorist Erma Bombeck once said, “He Who Laughs, Lasts.” Keep that in mind.

Accept the naked truth

Most of us don’t look as good in our underwear when we’re middle aged. Not matter how much we train out, eat salads, get surgery, or take various supplements, we often appear and feel older. Gravity and sunshine may be harsh on our bodies. But that’s alright, since we are! Perhaps one day, all of the anti-aging cautions in advertisements will cease making fun of us for living longer and becoming older. The emphasis should shift to pro-aging festivities. Although we most likely won’t be bikini-wearing in July, we are happy to have another summer.

It’s party time in the empty nest

Many middle-aged couples discover they haven’t spent much time alone together in years once the final child goes out. The new empty nest is the ideal setting and moment to rekindle your relationship without having to cater to kids. Lastly, you can have a romantic supper for two under the stars before sleeping in your undies with the bedroom door open. Try it out this evening.

Honor and encourage individual activities

I like traveling to see favorite spots, see friends, or go to writing conferences. I support my husband’s desire for fun, and he reciprocates.

Set up play dates with each other.

Find things you enjoy doing together and don’t let your schedule get in the way of having fun. Even though he’s far better at golf than I am, we still play together, and when he doesn’t feel like golfing, he comes to plays and concerts with me. The only ground rule is to stay away from grumpy folks.

Continue to play the music.

Usually, we enjoy an adult beverage on the patio while listening to our preferred playlists as the day comes to a finish. We always update our favorite tunes because music improves our recollections.

Finally, observe older couples together to get the most out of your midlife marriage and beyond. There will be a lot of people who are silent and some who appear resentful. Avoid turning into those folks. See how similar other couples dress, talk, and look. Don’t turn into those either. Decide to follow in the footsteps of those who like holding hands, maintaining eye contact, and displaying affection in public. Let’s say they are wed to one another. Marriage in midlife may be the best period of life.