3 Tips to Grow Intimacy Instantly

Let’s discuss how to help your relationship grow quickly. You can truly experience intimacy in a marriage or long-term relationship. For the time being, let us define intimacy. “Into me see,” the traditional definition, is a wonderful one. In actuality, it refers to having the ability to hear and connect with each other’s hearts. When you have that kind of friendship, that is true intimacy.

I wed Lisa, my closest friend. It has been thirty-one years since our marriage. She is my best buddy, really. My heart is heard by her. I can hear her heartbeat. Even though we don’t always agree, we do agree to listen, and once we do, things get stronger and better. I’m going to share with you several tools that we use on a daily basis and have been utilizing for over thirty years.

What is intimacy?

What happens is intimacy. It’s not a result of your beauty. It doesn’t happen because you’re attractive, prosperous, or slender. Since intimacy is the outcome of a recognized set of disciplines, you can be all those things and more and still not have any closeness in your marriage. In Western culture, we’re used to rapid gratification. We want to be slender and press a button. We want to be wealthy by pressing a button. You switch up your disciplines whenever you wish to make a change in your life.

If you don’t change, nothing will change for you. You will continue to experience the same outcomes if you follow the same course of action. This is something you already know. I am aware that in order to bring about the change I desire, I must consider the disciplines I must adopt. I have to make changes if I want to be healthy. I need to practice disciplines that lead to intimacy if I want to have a long-term, committed marriage.

3 important things to follow

I promise that even in a few weeks, if you follow the three daily practices, you will feel more connected to your partner. You will feel closer to your spouse and have a stronger affection for them. This is guaranteed by the fact that I have worked with couples who hadn’t had sex in twenty years, and after just three weeks of practicing these three things, they became close enough to engage in sexual activity. Your relationship is truly transformed, but it takes work—W-O-R-K. You can get the outcomes if you’re willing to put in the effort. Put these in writing someplace.

Keep track of your daily activities on a calendar. Maybe if you don’t follow through, assign yourself a consequence. Since many marriages are emotionally driven, try doing push-ups or some other form of minor punishment to truly start incorporating these disciplines into your marriage and relationship. Couples that lack self-discipline in their interactions with one another tend to have messy and unhealthy relationships.

Feelings is the first exercise.

Sensing and expressing emotions are skills. Anyone can learn how to do things. Anyone, including myself, can personally attest to that. I have seen numerous couples improve in their ability to recognize and express their emotions.

There are three rules you should abide by at the top of the Feelings List that we would send you. The first rule is to not provide each other examples. Therefore, you do not say, “I feel frustrated when you…” while expressing your feelings. Anything in your life other than your marriage can cause you frustration, including politics, potholes, dogs, children, and outlaws. Maintaining eye contact is crucial for number two. There are so many people who no longer look one other in the eyes. Number three: no comments. Thus, you’re not expressing, “Oh, I’m not understanding.” It’s beyond me. Tell me more, go deeper. You are merely listening to someone else express a sensation; none of that.

Place your finger anywhere on the sensations list at random. Whoa. Okay, so you touched “calm.” On your paper, there are now two phrases that begin, “I feel calm when… I first remember feeling calm when…”

That is how you complete this exercise for ninety days. Simply complete two feelings from your day after that. It takes approximately ninety days to become emotionally literate. The “Emotional Fitness” book can assist you accelerate emotional development if you’d like to do it more quickly.

Praise is the second exercise.

Identify two aspects of your partner that you find appealing or valued. Put them in your thoughts. It’s similar to ping pong. You perform one, your partner performs one, and your spouse performs one. As an illustration, “I truly appreciate how inventively you handled that problem.” She must then express her gratitude. This is a crucial matter. To receive appreciation, you must first express your gratitude. An enormous number of people receive praise, but they refuse to accept it, which causes their account to remain negative. When one person compliments another, the recipient must respond with gratitude.

Prayer is the final practice.

Engage your spiritual background, whatever it may be. Just say, “God, we’re just supposed to pray,” if you don’t have one. I am really grateful for today. I’m grateful for my wife. I’m grateful for my family. That’s sufficient; you want to establish a spiritual bond with someone since you both possess spirits, and you want to share any manifestations of these experiences.

I can share with you three exercises: two feelings, two compliments, and prayer. You can also make daily meditation (connectivity, a spiritual connection) into a discipline. You and your partner will work through some emotions each day. Your boyfriend or spouse will seem like a very safe person to you. You start to make generalizations over time, such as “My spouse is safe.” My partner and I are able to express our hearts.”

You begin to get closer and closer to what is happening. The lovely part about this is that you may store the feelings list once the ninety days are up. Every day, Lisa and I have been discussing two emotions from our day. Since friends share emotions, we truly get to know one another and remain friends.