3 Signs of a Broken Relationship & How to Recognize Them

However, it is startling to see that we frequently make the same mistakes in our romantic relationships. People always seem to teach us something. Millions of years of evolution and our hormones are to fault for this. Our choice of spouse is still largely influenced by our physical attractiveness to one another. The obligations of a committed relationship, however, surpass what your hormones may suggest!

If a long-term relationship is something you truly want, be mindful of these three telltale indications that usually catch couples off guard. But that’s not all. To identify the underlying problems in your relationship, try responding to these four easy questions:

1. Mismatched expectations

At first, most couples would deliberately try to only display their finest qualities to one other. However, as the partnership ages, genuine problems begin to surface. The romance in the relationship vanishes in an instant! Things get more challenging and complex than before. In this instance, misplaced expectations are the guilty party.

These straightforward inquiries will assist you in identifying expectations that aren’t aligned:

What do you want most of all from your partner?
How hard does your partner try to fulfill your main expectation?
How many times did you say “no” to your partner in the past week?
How many times did you go to someone else in the past four weeks for something your partner ought to have done?

You may need to use caution if your partner is not meeting your primary expectations and you have a lengthy list of responses for questions 3 and 4.

2. Being self-centered

For some of us, getting into a relationship is just the first step toward achieving our personal goals. This isn’t always a negative thing. However, it is toxic to use the relationship for your own gain and to ignore your partner’s goals.

To determine if you or someone you know is manipulative and controlling, ask yourself these questions:

When did you ever prioritize your partner’s needs over your own?
Do you have to follow a set schedule or ask your partner’s permission before doing anything you want?
Have you ever felt like your goals have been undermined by your partner?
Have you ever been envious of your partner’s accomplishments?

3. Holding grudges

Couples split up for a variety of reasons. Among the causes are infidelity, poor communication, frequent disputes, and a lack of closeness. But the majority of these causes are only the outward expressions of long-standing resentment that leads to harmful actions. Because resentment is frequently misplaced, you could end yourself the roadkill.

Ask yourself these questions to find out if you are in a relationship with unresolved resentment.

Which way does the world look to you and your partner? Or, to put it another way, is someone right or wrong?
Do you or your spouse still carry unresolved childhood traumas (such being molested or abandoned)?
How many times in the past four weeks have you or your spouse offered a heartfelt apology for something that went wrong?
In the recent four weeks, how many times did you or your partner find fault over things that the other party felt was exaggerated?

Do your best to notice these cautionary indicators. After all, the first step to fixing a relationship is realizing why there are problems.